tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4562902658148179903.post8805334947661980107..comments2024-03-03T22:12:54.997-08:00Comments on Living the Journey: Sex and the lezzieKate Evanshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16478737570632377733noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4562902658148179903.post-91900675739689512292008-06-01T11:13:00.000-07:002008-06-01T11:13:00.000-07:00ps to Becky: I love how you get in trouble with e...ps to Becky: I love how you get in trouble with everyone! You are rare in that you don't walk a party line, no matter what the party.Kate Evanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16478737570632377733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4562902658148179903.post-57766547143276142122008-06-01T11:12:00.000-07:002008-06-01T11:12:00.000-07:00Lisa: I love what you say here. Thanks. Becky: I...Lisa: I love what you say here. Thanks. <BR/><BR/>Becky: I understand getting roped into the "born that way" response. It's hard to talk outside of it. I still think, though, that saying "Who cares?! There's nothing wrong with being queer" is the best response because "I was born that way" smacks of "I can't help it" which still positions queerness as a "problem." Ain't no problem here.<BR/><BR/>I do think there may be some gender differences as far as fluidity. I think men are socialized to be more rigid.Kate Evanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16478737570632377733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4562902658148179903.post-74301285399804277032008-06-01T00:30:00.000-07:002008-06-01T00:30:00.000-07:00kate, I so much like fludity- "born that way" comm...kate, I so much like fludity- "born that way" comment--I generally agree with what you are saying--but it is too lengthy to go into in a short comment. But then, even though I don't totally buy the rigid "born that way" position--(although in my case it seems I pretty much was)--I find myself getting into trouble--one, I have suggeted that men and women may generally be different-- in the fluidity--this gets me in trouble with gay guys and feminists and queer activists generally<BR/><BR/> And then, I find myself hardening the positon of "yes--born that way" when I am in a politcal discussion--arguing against the homophobic position which is always that homosexuality unlike race, is "a choice".<BR/><BR/>Ok, I bit off way too much on way too big a subject for a comment, and it does not help I was toking earlier--but I hope it made some sense.<BR/><BR/>~BeckyBecky C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06415067599794969890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4562902658148179903.post-7226080234118042232008-05-30T20:43:00.000-07:002008-05-30T20:43:00.000-07:00Kate--you have it, woman, spot-on! I too, am flami...Kate--you have it, woman, spot-on!<BR/> I too, am flaming for women AND men. I think you fall in love with beauty: a beautiful voice, a way someone has of expressing herself or himself, the way she or he looks at you... and you stay in love because your connection has become even richer, more about learning from each other....Lisa Nanette Allenderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15263158091013515471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4562902658148179903.post-34474468081029911792008-05-28T14:52:00.000-07:002008-05-28T14:52:00.000-07:00So if the star is coupling with a normal person, d...So if the star is coupling with a normal person, does that mean the normal person is actually crazy for coupling with a star? Ha.<BR/><BR/>Yeah, the tired/born that way is so old. That's why I like the WHO GIVES A SHIT? response the best. Especially since I'm a flaming bisexual. Hey, as a bisexual was I BORN this way, or do I choose to be this way?<BR/><BR/>Jo: Thanks for your kind comments. You have such a loving attitude toward life.Kate Evanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16478737570632377733noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4562902658148179903.post-78578555305583409882008-05-28T10:58:00.000-07:002008-05-28T10:58:00.000-07:00actually, i admire ms. nixon even more for couplin...actually, i admire ms. nixon even more for coupling with a civilian rather than another actor -- and under the radar, at that. granted, she's not the biggest mega-star in the universe, but there's something to be said for partnering with a person who is vaguely normal. (matt damon did the same thing).<BR/><BR/>i'm sooooo tired of the born that way-it's a choice debate. like jo said, i think you captured the essence perfectly with your kicker.Bookfraudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06294034687592676200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4562902658148179903.post-76006164532492459822008-05-27T18:22:00.000-07:002008-05-27T18:22:00.000-07:00"So there's nothing wrong with choosing to love wh..."So there's nothing wrong with choosing to love who you love."<BR/><BR/>What a powerful ending quote Kate.<BR/>Speaks volumes!! I've always admired strong women who weren't afraid to be who they are. <BR/><BR/>Also loved your poem Remnants, I can feel all the emotions of loss.<BR/>The setting with the birds and cows reminds me of where I live. Very nice! :)Jo A. T.B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06925256842521954260noreply@blogger.com